fitness, Healthy Living, Mental Health

3 Mental Roadblocks to a Healthier You and How to Overcome Them

Fitness. It’s one of those things where either you love it or you hate it. Quite honestly, most people either hate it or have a love-hate relationship with it. Very few people actually love the thought of working out. But why is that? Why do we have such a disdain for something that has the power to change our lives for the better? Well, I can think of a few reasons. More than likely, you are suffering from a mental roadblock or two that keeps getting in your way.

Mental Roadblock #1: Defeatist Attitude

Example: “There’s no way I’m going to be able to reach my goal!” This mental roadblock is the one that causes you to give up before you even try. Maybe it’s been months or even years since you’ve worked out or attempted to eat healthy. The mere thought of making a change seems overwhelming. Instead of anticipating the best, you’re expecting the worst. Trust me, you are not alone. So often, we miss out on potential blessings because of our own beliefs. We believe we won’t be able to reach our fitness goals. Defeatist attitude. We believe that if we do try to pursue a life of fitness, we will end up failing. Defeatist attitude. We believe it will be too hard (and we haven’t even tried). Defeatist attitude. These are all beliefs that are set up to keep us from becoming our best selves.

How to Overcome a Defeatist attitude

One great way to overcome a defeatist attitude is through daily affirmations. This is something that we at MommiNation encourage and believe in, and our good sis Destiny Aja keeps them coming for us! If you participated in the Mommi 2.0 Challenge or the Fit Mommi Challenge that ended today, you know what I’m talking about. The affirmations Destiny provides add a layer of motivation, comfort, and ignite a fire of determination in us. Did you know that daily affirmations have been PROVEN to motivate and boost confidence? According to an article from The Intuitive Phoenix Blog, they even improve your quality of life and lead to better health. So, start talking to yourself, Sis!

Mental Roadblock #2: Pessimism

Example: “This is not going to end well!” This mental roadblock usually pops up in the beginning of your fitness journey, and sometimes it happens mid-workout. Pessimism is “a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.” Now THAT is deep! A lack of hope or confidence in the future. Not to take it to church on y’all, but that sounds like the absence of faith to me. (insert big eye balls) Listen, the mind is a powerful thing, and if you believe that the worst will happen, it probably will. What the heck, let’s go to church!

How to Overcome Pessimism

Phillipians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” You have to take inventory of your thoughts, and any thought that does not align with this passage needs to be evicted. Period. Start replacing the negativity in your surroundings and in your life. Be intentional about finding the good in every situation. For more tips on how to how to stop being pessimistic, click here.

Mental Roadblock #3: Unrealistic Expectations

Example: “I’m not seeing any change!” This mental roadblock will have you thinking all kinds of backwards. Let’s just cut to the chase. Rome was NOT built in a day, Sis! What makes you think your dream body will be? The most effective health and fitness habits and routines are set up to yield long-term success, not instant gratification. Another example of this is dieting. Some of us end up frustrated with ourselves because we keep “failing” at our diet. But what does that diet consist of? One meal a day? This is something I’ve had to embrace for myself, at a deeper level. I’ve done the keto diet a couple of times. I have fun when I’m keto because I get to try new recipes that I normally wouldn’t cook. I also have an opportunity to get creative with desserts. However, I’ve realized that as a foodie, completely depriving myself of foods that I love does not work for me. I only end up indulging in the long run and falling completely off the wagon. So, I had to go back to the drawing board and set realistic expectations for myself.

How to Overcome Unrealistic Expectations

The first key to overcoming unrealistic expectations and creating realistic expectations for yourself is to know yourself. This requires a level or honesty, self-reflection, and vulnerability with the (wo)man in the mirror. What are your strengths and your weaknesses? What are you natural abilities. These are all things you should know about yourself. Then, you can set realistic expectations based on truth. Once you know yourself, you’ve got to stop comparing yourself to other people. God created YOU to be YOU, and there ain’t another person on this earth who brings to the table what you bring.

OK, follow me. We all make up one body, the body of Christ. We each play a key role in making that body function properly. If you are supposed to be a foot, but you want to be a nose like Keisha, we’re gonna end up with two noses. Oh, we’ll be able to smell things from a mile away, but it’s gonna take us longer to get to the thing we smell because you (the foot) decided you didn’t want to play your position. In the words of Jonathan McReynolds, comparison kills! So don’t do it. Be you and walk in who God has created you to be with your head held high! If you need help to stop expecting too much of yourself, click here.

I Get It, and I Got You!

I really hope this blog is helpful because I know these mental roadblocks are real, and they rob us of our best lives every day. I encourage you to make a choice today to push past those roadblocks, kick them DOWN!!! And push forward to a better future, a better life, and a better you. So, who’s ready to break down these mental road blocks??? We can do this thing together. It’s time to go after the life of health and fitness that you deserve! If you REALLY want to go deep, join my JumpFit Fam. All you have to do is register for a class, and you will automatically be welcomed into a group of amazing women who motivate and encourage one another. I hope to see you soon!

Yours in Fitness,

Lady Grace

All About Lady Grace

Who is Lady Grace?

Hey, Family! It’s me, Joanna Coatney, also known as Lady Grace. I wanted to take a moment to welcome you to my blog! In this brief blog post, I want to take the time introduce myself to some and further explain who I am to others.

Who Am I?

Me and my little family!

I am a child of God above all things. My relationship with God and commitment to follow Christ is the driving force in my life. I strive to bring light into this dark world in any way I can, and I use my gifts, talents, and my business as a way to show love to those who enter into my world.

I am a wife, happily married to one of the most amazing men in the entire world, Vecente Coatney, II. While marriage is not easy (I don’t care how Instagram makes it look), it is the craziest rollercoaster that I would never want to get off of. When you find the right person who cherishes you, honors you, and loves you like Christ loves the church, it makes the rough patches worth fighting through.

I am a mother to one amazingly energetic toddler whom we call Third. I could not imagine my life without our son. He brings so much joy into our lives. He is the kindest, sweetest little boy I could’ve ever prayed for, and I am forever grateful to be his Mommy. I strive every day to make him happy and create a life where he can flourish and grow into everything God is calling him to be.

What Do I Do?

My time as a truancy officer in Manor ISD

I have been in education for 11 years, and am now transitioning into full-time entrepreneurship. That’s right! As of February 5th, I will be saying goodbye to my current job and embarking on a whole new adventure. I’m choosing to take a leap of faith into uncharted territory. Why? Because working hard every day to build someone else’s business while feeling stressed, drained, and unfulfilled is no longer appealing to me. If I’m going to be drained and stressed, I want it to be over something that also brings me joy and rejuvenation. Something that I’m passionate about. My passion for education has fizzled out, and that’s OK! It just means that God is preparing me for something different. Something greater!

I’m a fitness instructor and newly Certified Personal Fitness Instructor. I have always been an athlete since elementary school, participating in team sports such as basketball, softball, and track and field. Team sports and group workouts give me so much energy! Which is part of the reason why I created JumpFit and launched the first class on November 28, 2020. JumpFit is my jump rope fitness class, MY baby, and I’m extremely passionate about it.

I am a blogger and social media influencer. My platform focuses on my 5 F’s (Faith, Family, Fitness, Food, and Fun) and how I’m “Learning to Balance it All.” As a foodie, I love most foods that conflict with my healthy lifestyle! (insert eye rolling emoji) However, I have been on a mission to find a healthy balance that will allow me to continue to prioritize my healthy and fitness while also creating space to enjoy life and all of the amazing foods if has to offer. Balance is attainable when it comes to your eating habits, and I think I’ve finally found what works for me.

What You Can Expect From Me

As you join me on this journey, you can expect to see an array of blogs that will fall under the umbrella of my 5 F’s. In those blogs, you can expect to receive helpful resources, encouragement, empowerment, transparency, and lots of laughs! Through my blog, I hope to connect with and support women who are wanting to live their best life as their best self in the midst of trying to balance everything that comes with life. My prayer is that I can help you learn to balance it all without having to neglect YOU.

Let’s Do This!

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Thank you so much for rocking with me, and stay tuned for my new blog dropping later this week!